Sunday, June 29, 2008

If you share your thoughts, I'll share a photo.

Please, please, please share your thoughts or stories with me. Well I guess this really goes for the female readers. I'd really love to know about your experiences and thoughts about breastfeeding or bottle feeding. I'm really having a hard time with a few different things, and I'd love to hear any and all points of view on the topic from real people. If I google, I find some pretty extreme people out there, and the whole thing is pretty discouraging no matter how I look at it.

If you'd like to share and don't feel comfortable posting a comment, you can email me at

Thanks so much, and I will work on that photo of the new babe!


  1. Anonymous11:48 AM

    I am a mom who believes in doing what's best for your entire family. If that means breastfeeding works, by all means, do it (since we know the health benefits). HOWEVER, if there are circumstances that are making breastfeeding substantially difficult, you don't have to do it.

    A friend of mine who is European told me that many women in Europe nurse for the first six weeks, while critical immunity is being built, and then switch to bottles.

    I was not breast fed as a baby, nor were any of my siblings. I can safely and confidently say that I love my mother and feel bonded to her, and I don't believe my cognitive functioning suffered from taking bottles (perhaps I would have gone on for a PhD if my mom had only nursed me). :-) Also, neither me or any of my siblings are overweight.

    You will not be harming your baby if you choose to bottle feed. Think about it, the more harmful thing would be to insist that you WILL NURSE NO MATTER WHAT, and perhaps your baby is not getting all that he/she needs, but you could be providing that EASILY with some formula.

    Babies died century ago in this country when they didn't nurse. I think of formula as an evidence of common grace so that we can take care of our children. It's a blessing. We can use it if needed (and "need" can mean different things for different families, depending on your life right now).

    I think this is a personal decision, and you make it in a way that honors God, depending on Him for grace, and live in the peace He will give you.

    Hope this helps. Maybe I'm not understanding the issue at all, but that's my two cents.

  2. I agree- do what's best for your family. Of course since my little one is adopted, I had no choice but to go with formula. But, he has not suffered in the least because of it. His development milestones have pretty much all been ahead of schedule and it has been very easy to monitor exactly how much he is taking. Plus Dad can help with midnight feedings!!! Basically the one downside is that it is SO expensive! At about 6 months, I started researching some of the generics formulas and have found one with all of the same nutrients as the name brand we were using. This has saved BIG bucks!
    BTW- it's time to change your "about me" to your little guyS! yeah!

  3. I am sorry you're having nursing struggles! I know that can be so frustrating! I nursed both of my girls, the first I supplemented formula bottles some, and expressed milk some. The second I nursed almost exclusively, only the occasional expressed milk bottle when I was away. I think she and I just had a much easier time exclusively nursing than the first and I - not sure why, but it easier for me the second time around. However, having an older child and nursing can also be a challenge as you are somewhat glued to the couch for the first month or so ( or at least it feels that way! HA!)
    In the end, I am a big breastfeeding advocate, but I also know that not every mom feels comfortable doing it, or wants to do it, or even is able to do it.
    If you decided to go to formula - don't feel guilty. I would encourage you, though, to stick it out another week or so before making a decision either way - some babies "get it" faster than others. Does your baby have a "short frenulum?" (also known as "tounge tied") My second DD had this, and it did affect latching abilities for the first week/10 days. We were able to work around it w/o having it clipped.
    I hope this helps, or at least encourages you!
    Blessings from another PW in Tennessee!

  4. Well.... I am a advocate of nursing BUT as said by the other ladies I am also an advocate for what works best for mom and baby. Adele was a very easy and quick nurser and gained lots of weight, so we had it easy. I am not really sure of the issues you are having but I would say that if it causes you too much stress then by all means "get that bottle ready". This is a time for you to enjoy this new life God has blessed you with. Maybe nursing just isn't going to be what is best for you and baby. I do agree with the previous comment to give a little more time. When Adele was about 1 month old she developed thrush and it was a VERY difficult time as far as nursing was concerned but we pressed through it and I am glad that we did. I will be praying for you as you and Justin make this decision about what is best for your new little one and for you. By the way, he really is adorable.

  5. Anonymous8:30 PM

    I'm a little late on this topic but I wanted to share my experience. My son had trouble latching on when he was born so the nurses at the hospital gave him formula without telling me in order to keep him quiet. When I took him home he refused to breastfeed. He would arch his back and scream and cry. .I was devastated. I tried putting him on my chest, having baths with him, having visits with nurses adn lactation consaultants. Nothing worked! I continued to keep trying. Everytime (except for 1 night feed so I could get some rest) I would offer my breast before the bottle. After 4 weeks he finally took it and now at 8 months will not take a bottle at all. I cried many times adn asked 'what is wrong with me' but I guess he just wasn't ready at the time.


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